I am always hesitant to go on first dates. I don’t really have a reason as to why, I just don’t like them. So far I’ve never even had a bad one, and I always have a lot of fun but it’s the hours leading up to it and actually getting myself out the door but I still try to always force myself to go.
I agreed to a date the last night with a guy I had met while wandering downtown the other day. He was cute but came off as very aggressive and did not waste any time getting my number. But worse than that he wanted to give me his number instead which is just not going to happen with me. I don’t know why I have this thing against calling guys for a date; I am very old fashioned that way.
So we had plans to meet on Granville street after the hockey game so as much as I wasn’t feeling it I got myself ready, drove downtown and walked around. As I was pacing the street, I saw a girl giving away free stuff so obviously I jumped to the front of the line and got my greedy hands in there—only to find out that I was now holding a bag of condoms and a book about being safe which says not “don’t do drugs” but instead, “don’t do drugs alone”. Perfect!
So since I hadn’t heard from him yet (and the game had been over for about 30mins at this point) I texted him to see what was up. He said that he was at the Penthouse on Richards street and asked me to meet him there.
To anyone outside of Vancouver this might not make sense, but here in Vancouver the “penthouse” means a stripclub (or atleast to the type of people I hang out with which are not loaded penthouse staying type people).
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So immediately I am infuriated that this guy would even suggest meeting at a such a place! I was so disgusted and turned right off! The nerve of him! I texted him back saying that I wasn’t going to meet him there. He kept texting me and calling but I just messaged him saying that I was with friends and we were just going to stay on Granville and go for drinks or something. He was very disappointed.
As I was telling a friend the story he informed me that the penthouse stripclub is on Seymour street, not Richards and when he googled the actual address the guy gave me it was of one of the nicest hotels in Vancouver.
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So yah, this is pretty much a typical date of mine.
However, I wouldn’t have gone anyways, I don’t think that inviting a girl to your “penthouse” is any kind of first date! And the least he could have done was come out to meet me first and not leave me waiting for however long. Or at least that’s what I will tell myself to feel better about missing out on a lavish hotel, free drinks, and possibly a lot of fun….
He’s invited me out again on Wednesday, I’m not sure what I will say yet.
- Kisekae
- Nice to e-meet you! That's internet for Hello. And that's also about as far as I got in planning what to say in this thing...but as a lover of spontaneity and the inability to edit my own words because that would mean actually having an awareness as to the nothingingness that I am about to ramble on about for far too long...I'm just going to go ahead and keep typing. Apparently...
Yeah, there was no reason for him to make you wait. If he pulls that stuff right off the bat then I wonder how he'd be after a few dates.
The fact that he suggested you meet him at "the penthouse" says to me that:
a) he's too lazy to plan an ACTUAL date...and trust me, you're worth taking on a real date
b) he's attempting to make your first date a get-together with friends...is this 6th grade?
c) he's trying to flaunt his (or maybe his friend's?) money by pointing out that he's at a penthouse
Just some thoughts...you never called me back but I had to tell you these valid points somehow. Thankfully you have this blog now :)
hehehe... stripclub vs. posh hotel... kinda funny.
here's the opinion you didn't ask for: don't go. he's a douche, shouldn't have made you wait, and most certainly shouldn't be making you run around town to meet him.
don't waste your energy on him; invest the time in something positive for yourself.
thanks for the advice!!! I agree, on to the next! :)